How does Self Talk Help?
I have a question for you today. How often do you talk with yourself? All alone?
I am sure we all do talk to ourselves, but most of the time, our talk is limited to self-pity and/or complaining about stuffs we do not posses.But I am not asking this in that context. My question is, how often do you actually have a conversation with your own inner self to seek few answers which you have no clue if anyone could even understand?
For me, I imagine my 10 year old self, in her two small pony tails, her weird smile sitting in front of me, and have a talk. Crazy, isn’t it? It’s the best thing! And the question I ask to ‘That Girl’ is always answered, by that 10 year old girl!
The question which follows is, how do you realize or hear what she answers or advise me? How will you come to know? HOW!?
The idea for me which always works is, the first thought, the first explanation that strikes my mind is the answer which I am always seeking for.
The best part is, the answer almost always makes sense and even if it doesn’t sometimes, it at least calms my fears and thoughts.
That answer never strikes me when I keep over-thinking or complain about situations to myself. It happens when I genuinely ask that 10 year old self for an answer, for a guidance. And she always gives me with her 10 year old smile and shining eyes.
But, sometimes, the answers aren’t clear. Sometimes, I don’t even get an answer. I only see that girl smiling at me. Creepy. I let the question go with a belief that it isn’t the time for the answer to be revealed to me as of that moment.
This is my way of seeking the key to my mysterious questions. What’s yours?
Try to question your 10 year old self. The one who was not afraid of the truths. Who was not afraid to learn about the truths.
Listen to the first thought that strikes your head and trust that thought and keep going. If for no one else, then, at least for that 10 year old-self?
You are not alone and you are worth all the happiness. There is abundance. Hug yourself and smile often.
Be your own hero. Your own rescuer. It is never the end until you stop asking questions and stop seeking for the answers.
So the next time you find yourself caught up in a storm and can’t find a way out, let go complaining and cursing your luck or destiny, but, start asking for a way out to yourself. You know your feelings, emotions and goals better than any other person.
– Kinjal Parekh